If your love life frustrates you, you are not alone. Many highly conscious people struggle to find joy in their relationships.
At first things appear to progress. We find someone we like. We get inspired by a new approach to dating. We may even find ourselves in a relationship.
And then, tragedy strikes.
We experience heartbreak or loss in our new relationship. We get bored with the dating process. We just can’t seem to get it right. We feel like we just do not have the energy for this. We are done wasting our precious energy on rejection.
And yet…a part of us still daydreams about our best relationship and future significant other. We imagine ourselves on a romantic vacation. We fantasize about co-manifesting with someone who is at our level. We snuggle up in delicious thoughts of being unconditionally loved, supported, and adored by a beautiful human being.
Sound familiar? Maybe it’s time to shake things up.
First, you must become aware of the energetic reasons behind why you attract what you attract in your love life. One way to do this as to look at your beliefs.
What do I believe to be true about love and relationships? (What strong opinions do I uphold about romantic love?)
Is what I accept as to be true a universal truth?
Are my beliefs serving me in having a relationship that I love?
To assist you further, I am going to give an example of a love myth that I uncovered on my path to creating my best relationship. This love myth is a part of the belief systems of many highly conscious people.
It’s the soulmate love myth.
A myth is something that we think is true, when in reality, nothing could be further from the truth. A love myth is an aspect of an illusion.
As a Love Renegade, we work to dismantle untruths, myths, and illusions—laws of love—that are keeping you stuck in your love life.
We when we do this, we are empowered to break free, heal our hearts, and reclaim our romantic relationships!
Watch these three videos to discover the ins and outs of the soulmate love myth and how it negatively impacts your relationships and other life areas.
It happens time and time again. Beautiful and success people, mainly women, are driving themselves crazy. Right now, you might be thinking, “oh I don’t think you are talking to me. I am not that successful.” Let me assure you that nothing could be further from the truth!
(Or maybe you are the opposite and you have it all together. If this is the case, awesome job! No need to read any further. )
But if you sometimes feel like you are in a self-esteem slump, know this: you are different. The success that you have radiates beyond conventional success. For instance, I am sure that you are the person of whom many of your friends—and maybe even strangers—seek out when they have an issue. They want to talk to you because they trust you. You have beautiful energy. You give great advice. You have a comforting, no-bullshit attitude.
Here’s the thing though…You are probably pretty hard on yourself. Just because you are not traveling the world yet or just because you do not live in your Barbie dream house (just kidding) yet, you think that you are not “good enough.”
Maybe you feel like you are incomplete because you just can’t seem to “get it right” in the love department. Maybe you have been searching for “Mr. Right” and he is nowhere to be found. Maybe the seemingly “perfect” guy turns out to be a fatal attraction or he is NOT the image he portrayed so well on dates one, two, and three…Maybe you did not even get to date number one.
Whatever it is, keep these truths in mind:
Truth 1- There is no RIGHT way to do anything.
When I first embraced this, I remember feeling both relieved and terrified. I was relieved because I have always had a rebellious streak, but terrified…because WOW…Now what?!!?
Truth 2- It is NOT your fault. Truthfully, there is no “perfect” person and Mr. Right does not exist.
He does not exist because that is an illusion—ok maybe a delusion—given to us from the media. Everyone has his/her flaws.
In fact, what we perceive as flaws, might just be our most attractive and dynamic quality.
Let me explain…Each one of us has our own inner Love Renegade. Accepting these two truths allowed me to connect more and more deeply with my own inner Love Renegade. Your Love Renegade is the part of you who:
Urges you to break the rules and color outside the lines.
Radiates beauty and confidence—she trusts that when she comes from love, she creates love—within and around her.
Speaks to us in ways that cause our heart to open and for our courage to take over when we feel vulnerable
Ignites a spark in you to be your highest potential
Alerts us when our personal principles and values—our boundaries—are being tested
When you are in touch with your inner Love Renegade, you are less likely to compare yourself to others. You exude self-confidence. You come from love and you create love.
How connected are you to your inner Love Renegade?
Do you ever engage with any of the following behaviors?
Compare yourself to others—especially to other women
Obsess over things (and people) that you cannot control
Beat yourself over the head with positive thoughts and affirmations to overpower feelings of worry and fear
Run conversations over and over again in your mind to find where you or the other person “went wrong”
Feel energetically and emotionally heavy when it comes to passion or relationships
Experience frustration with relationships and other people
Feel regret for past choices
Tell yourself that if only that person could change, things would be so much better
If you have engaged in any of the above, you are not alone! Many of us go through times like this. There is an ebb and flow to life—especially when it comes to emotions. Sometimes, we feel great and on top of the world and other times, we are just trying to get through the day. It happens.
But know this, the behaviors are your heart’s way of asking you to get in touch with your own personal power, your soul. Connecting with inner Love Renegade can help you do that!
Let’s connect with your inner Love Renegade right now. Here is how:
Write out three things that you do not like about yourself.
Do not make these about accomplishments that you have not accomplished or goals that you have not yet achieved.
Make these about personality traits that you do not like—you know, the things that you try to keep under wraps when you first start dating—the things that peak out after a month of dating…OR they can be things about you from your past.
NO, WE ARE NOT BEING MEAN HERE! We are being real. When we are real, we get to free ourselves from any situation that no longer serves us.
And we are going to do just that with a little alchemy. 🙂
I’ll go first:
I am a giant cry-baby.
At times, I obsess over things/people that I care about.
And (this is one is very embarrassing) I can be a little (ok sometimes very) arrogant.
Don’t I sound like a prize!?!?! Lol 🙂
Now it is time for some practical alchemy. Let’s transform those flaws into the gold that they are:
I am sensitive.
I am passionate.
I really, really care and because I care so much, I get to implement the art of “live and let live” on a daily basis!! 🙂 And guess what? Life is soooooo much more fun that way!!!
Oh and about the arrogance thing…That has to do with caring so much that sometimes my ego will protect my heart with arrogance…I know that that when the arrogance creeps up, my heart is hurt. When my heart is hurt, I get to address that and heal that within myself.
But what does your self-love alchemy formula look like? What gold will you create from your alchemical lead or flaws?
Whenever I find myself feeling a little down, my inner Love Renegade reminds me that I have a choice to transform my fear or pain into my biggest asset and greatest opportunity.
Self-awareness is sexy.
I mean think about it. If you can OWN the things about yourself that on the surface “aren’t too great,” then you have so much power. You do not have to worry about being “found out.” There is really nothing that anyone could say to you that would hurt your feelings. You do not have to hide your less desirable qualities or let them get the better of you. Instead you can use it to your advantage, and create some really loving results.