Missed Connections

Missed Connections

 

It was during the summer of 2009 when I wrote my first [and so far only] missed connection. I was living in my hometown, El Paso, TX, working a job I barely tolerated, and grappling with the predicament of being in love with two men at the same time.

To cope with these messy emotions and very complicated feelings I posted a missed connection on Craigslist. It was short, cryptic, and “punny.”  I got responses from others–not the person for whom it was intended—wishing me well and relating to me their own experiences of pain, heartbreak, and lost love.

Fast forward 10 years—both men are currently in my life! One of them, my handsome husband, Daniel, I married in 2012. The other, remains a friend of both of ours!  I look back on the relationship that inspired that missed connection post and I see it with eyes of love, gratitude, and even awe.

See, when it ended, my logical mind told me that I was a free spirit going through an existential crisis who wanted to join the Peace Corps and that my former partner was taking a completely different—let’s say safer and more level-headed approach—by buying a house and settling down. The practical thing to do, we both felt, was to go our separate ways.

Now, over a decade later, I see the breakup as a powerful catalyst. 

I would not have been able to truly BE my highest potential if I had stayed in that relationship. 

Yes, romantic love, sexual chemistry, friendship were all there with the first relationship. No question about it!  But there were was a huge missing piece in our relationship that I could not even see at the time!

The missing piece pointed to the lack of connection I had with myself. The breakup, as painful as it was, *forced me to shed light on those forgotten parts of myself which eventually, through plenty of twists and turns and close calls, led to a domino effect of awesome-ness!

There is more to this story that I would love to share with you. For now I have decided to share a bit more of it in an interview I did for the Women Entrepreneurs Radio Secrets of Success series called “Breaking the Laws of [Relationship] for Success, the Love Renegade’s Way with Lauren Kay Wyatt.”

Click here to listen.

You see, in some form or another, every relationship we have is a reflection of ourselves. This is especially highlighted when it comes to our intimate relationships!

Like it or not, these important relationships DO impact our self-expression and the results and fulfillment we have in our professional lives—especially if that professional life includes being an entrepreneur!

With my “enlightened” perspective I see that if had stayed in that relationship, I would not have had the courage to fully embrace my psychic gifts and have the *nerve to start a business grounded in the “woo-woo arts.”

Furthermore, had I not have endured that gut-wrenching breakup, I would not have had the healing that allowed me to reconnect with my inner wisdom, unconditional love, and soul purpose.

This powerful reconnection, fueled by unapologetic self-love, allowed me to experience *radical changes* that would forever impact the way I approached my romantic relationships, friendships, family relationships, and even partnerships with clients and other leaders in my field.

These changes led to healing which ultimately led me to discover the Laws of Relationship™, the six universal patterns of illusion, that separate us from love and cause disruption, chaos, and frustration in our romantic lives, relationships, and professional endeavors.

To further illuminate the often overlooked phenomenon (a missed connection in of its own lol) of how your love life and relationships DO affect your professional life and the success of your business, I want to share an interview I did with Deb Bailey of Women Entrepreneurs Radio.

Click here to listen. 

In this interview Deb and I talk about success and love in business with humor, candor, and through the looking glass of the Laws of Relationship (which, FYI, at the time of recording back in January 2019, I called the Laws of Love!)

Whether you are an entrepreneur, a team leader, and/or someone who prioritizes healing and love in all of its forms, this interview will support you in bridging the gap of a missed connection within yourself so that you can enjoy more of what you desire in your love life, your relationships, and professionally.

I will be in touch soon with more wisdom bursts!

[video] Genuine Coaching Session- The reason why you do not have what you want

Maybe you are thinking, “Ummm, why would I want to watch someone else’s session?”

Here’s why…We are all reflections of each other! Every human will [directly or indirectly] engage the same universal patterns.   And yes,  though we are all a part of the same source, these patterns do manifest differently in all of us because we are all unique individuals!

This mindset allows us to cultivate more empathy and gain more self-awareness. This combination allows us to connect—which allows for more love and deeper more fulfilling relationships!

In this first session, you will meet Thérèsa. Thérèsa was worried initially that I would not take her as a client . Her reasons? Because she was a lesbian and intersex.  When you watch this video, you will see that Love Renegades is LGBTQIA+ friendly! At Love Renegades, we serve LOVE.  Love comes in all forms. This includes people who are straight and who identify with their birth gender, and those who do not and who are non-binary! We support both monogamy and polyamory! Love Renegades is a safe virtual space for you to be your true self and receive love for being you!

All of this aside, I completely understood why Thérèsa would feel that way.  I do know what it is like to be an outsider. I know how painful it is to try to fit in and I know what it is like to be rejected. ( I was a psychic little kid after all who was really aware that I did not fit my family or society’s expectations of me!!) I know what self-protection looks like and I know what it is like to guard my heart from being hurt.

If you are reading this, I am sure that there are times when you have had your own version of this too!

Thérèsa reflects the part of you who separates yourself from love by outwardly appearing to be different and unique and living your life largely on your terms but who secretly plays it safe and tries to fit in because of [at least one] of the following reasons:

  • You reject others before they reject you
  • You have not harnessed the power of your “flaws”
  • You are afraid of who you truly are
  • You gaslight yourself so that you can fit in and please others
  • You put others before yourself to win their love

Watch here ======> https://youtu.be/tuqvtd83Qnc

So yeah…watching someone receive coaching is NOT as boring as hearing about someone else’s dream (or their past life regression experience lol.)

Let me know what you think when you watch Thérèsa’s session! What comes forth for you as you hear her experience and sit with the guidance and coaching she has received?  What would your life and your romantic life be like if you listened to your heart and tapped into your inner Love Renegade?

 

 

 

 


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