into the shadows of “happy”

Reflection, contemplation, and release—all energies associated with the Solstice. To assist you in leaving behind what no longer supports you, I would like to offer you two things. First, I want to invite you to have a Grand Tableau Reading with me. In this reading, we will look directly at the future and all circumstances, dynamics, etc that you can use to navigate the first part of 2022. This session is $277 and 75 minutes. I would love the opportunity to support you on your love and life path and in healing the Illusions of Relationship™.  Make your payment here.  and I will be in touch with you within two days to schedule your session. Second, I want to shed light on the Illusion of Satisfaction, the Illusion of Relationship™ that separates you from Love by causing you to NOT acknowledge what you are actually tolerating.Be warned. I am going to be very direct in my communication about the Illusion of Satisfaction. Please know that while my delivery may seem harsh, I am carrying a healing intention of reconnecting you with our power so that you can experience authentic satisfaction, joy, and love. The Illusion of Satisfaction triggers your Junior—my word for ego—to “fool yourself” into believing that you like and enjoy what you are, in fact, tolerating.  This can pertain to mistaken thinking aka the limiting beliefs that you carry. It points to the relationship dynamics you insist on keeping.One example of this is so many of us say that we want a “good relationship.”  We all want and desire love and yet we are not “good” to ourselves. Instead, we allow ourselves to be treated badly.  We make ourselves really small to be “nice people” and we tolerate terrible behavior from others—without realizing that they are an externalized representation of how we are treating ourselves!If you want to have a “good relationship” you must be “good” to yourself.To heal the Illusion of Satisfaction within you…1.) Start by looking closely at where you choose limitations. What “stories” do you tell yourself that encourage self-deception?  Just so that you know—these are often the areas where you blame yourself and others and feel that you do not have a choice.2.) Demand more from yourself by asking yourself, “Why do I continue to tolerate these things? Am I really so fearful of the unknown?  Am I really that afraid of love? Why do I cling to what hurts me?” 3.) Experience all of the emotions—even anger, rage, and sadness. By allowing yourself to experience and acknowledge these emotions, you set yourself free, and you are more able to access pure satisfaction and joy. Thank you for reading.  If you want more information on the Illusion of Satisfaction, watch this video on my YouTube channel, where I am much softer in my approach. 😈Thank you so much for letting me guide you with my own contemplations! Sending you so much love and blessings of gratitude. 💚With Love and Wisdom,

Lauren P.S. A few people have reached out and asked me if I am still accepting long-term coaching clients.  The answer is a very authentically satisfied YES!! I love my new structure in my coaching programs!! ❤️ If you are interested, please consider starting with a Grand Tableau Readingwhere you tap into gaining access to authentic confidence and satisfaction. Make your purchase here, and I will be in touch within a couple of days to schedule your session. Please know that due to the nature of this service, all sales are final and no refunds are offered.

when challenges become blessings (and what’s next)

What if your biggest challenge was actually a gift? What if the gift of the challenge was the blessing on the other side?

Over the last 18 months, I have endured the intensity of the challenge and its corresponding gift. Choosing to embrace the challenge gave me the courage to release elements of my business, certain habits, and relationships, and to make space for more expansion.  The results have been revolutionary, and it goes back to my choice to assist others with my most sacred gift, my psychic abilities.

It is no secret that I went “all-out” in having a highly successful coaching business.  I have hired people to help me achieve this, and I’ll be the first to tell you that I have hired the “wrong” people. I put the word wrong in quotes because one of the gifts I have experienced came from the fallout I experienced from hiring the “wrong” person.

Even with the emotional drama and stressful intensity, my experience with this person reminded me of what it was to play the role of a “doormat” in a relationship as well as what happens when we override our own inner wisdom and intuition because we choose to be “seduced” by another.

The gifts I received from this challenging situation brought me closer to my Divine Essence while allowing me to relate, connect, and cultivate more empathy for others who are in abusive relationships and stuck in choice patterns that separate them from their inner wisdom and Divinity.

All of this is in service to you because now I have more creative, more authentic, and more diverse ways to assist you!

For instance, let me introduce a new service called a Grand Tableau Reading.  This is a 75-minute psychic reading that will give you clear insight into the future as well as an accurate portrayal of what is happening now. In addition to having everything laid out for you, you will receive highly attuned advice from Spirit on how you can navigate the next few months and how you can respond to whatever situation or challenge presents itself “in the cards” or that you find yourself in. The current price of this offering is $277.  Make your payment here.

After I receive notification of your payment, I will be in touch via email (from lauren at love renegades dot com) within no more than 48 hours,  to schedule your session and with some simple intake questions.  Please know that due to the nature of this service, all sales are final and no refunds are offered.

New services include psychic healings, other psychic sessions, and even energy healing and psychic support for your beloved pets, which you can find out more about on Instagram @Petpsychichealer. For more information, visit my “psychic boutique” here.

I am so excited about the newfound passion, enthusiasm in my business, and variety of services I can offer you. I fully believe that this is one of the many gifts that I have experienced from the challenge I told you about earlier in this post. These gifts came from choosing to see the purpose of all the chaos, all the drama, all of the intensity that I endured, and for that: I am incredibly grateful.

So, if you currently find yourself in a challenging situation or if you feel you may never be free of your current experience, I invite you to acknowledge that the blessing, the opportunity, the gift, etc is here. Not only is it here, but it is just around the corner waiting for you.   <3

Sending you so much love and blessings of gratitude.

Maneuvering an Emotional Chokehold

As a Love and Relationship Psychic and Coach, I have the pleasure of connecting with people about their love lives and relationships.  Recently, I felt inspired by a client’s session and received Divine Guidance (and her permission) to share this with you. 

She is a beautiful, vibrant woman. Highly intelligent, successful, and quite kind.  She is the type of person many of us would see and think, “Her life is perfect. She has it all figured out.”

The reality is that she has been in an emotionally abusive romantic relationship for three years too long. 

She has told herself that she can fix it—that if she could just “be better” and “work harder,” then her partner would be happy—and that maybe the relationship would one day be what she has always wanted it to be.

In this relationship, she often experiences feeling devalued, dismissed, wrong, and anxious. She is not treated with love and respect. Many times, she has wanted to leave but has chosen to stay. She is losing confidence.

Does anything about her story feel familiar to you?   As someone who loves to identify and dismantle illusions that separate us from Love, which I call the Illusions of Relationship™—I am excited to shed light on this common situation with a Love Renegade’s perspective, starting with mistaken thinking.

My client’s mistaken thinking was such that she believed that “being better” was going to going to lead to new enjoyable experiences in her relationship. Her motivation for “being better” was with the expectation that her [former] partner would like her more or treat her better. Although completely understandable, this approach is not only manipulative but also a form of self-deception.

The mistaken thinking at play here aligns fully with the Illusions of Relationship™, but not with Love. If continued, actions made from such thinking would result in more opportunities to deceive and be deceived, more reasons to stay stuck, and more dissatisfaction in relationships—causing a lot of pain and frustration!

Now back to my client—-in addition to being gorgeous and successful—she is a martial artist. In her coaching session, her Guides and I directed her to apply martial arts to this common relationship dynamic.  From this exercise, she uncovered that her [former] partner’s “signature move” against her was a chokehold-—which made perfect sense for her!

See, the throat is the energy center of communication, authenticity, and self-expression.  When we have blocks on our throat chakra, we are experiencing difficulty in speaking or living our truth.  Nothing about this relationship really supported her in shining as her authentic self!

As we continued the session, I watched her throat chakra heal as she connected with her inner Love Renegade. As she saw the enlightened truth before her, she embraced a new perspective that will support her in breaking free of an emotional chokehold and the Illusions of Relationship™.   

Of course, without being consciously aware of it, many of us unknowingly allow ourselves to be put into emotional chokeholds. For your own healing and illumination, I encourage you to spend some time with the following questions: 
 

  • What would I do or say if I felt more trusting and confident? 
  • Is there anywhere in my relationship or life where I am deceiving myself?
  • What part of me wants to shine? 

Illusion of Satisfaction Keynotes

Learn more about the Illusion of Satisfaction, one of the Illusions of Relationship™ by watching this video here: https://youtu.be/taQdRO5_kwc

Or you can read the transcription below. 👇

“Today let’s connect about the Illusion of Satisfaction. The Illusion of Satisfaction is the sixth of the Illusions of Relationship™. It keeps you disconnected from your heart and keeps you separated from Love with its own shame and hurt. The way that the Illusion of Satisfaction works is that you may tell yourself that you are just completely fulfilled and “fine” with your life and current relationship—when that is not exactly the whole truth.  The Illusion of Satisfaction works in that if you are single and would really deep down want to have people in your life or that one person who you can really connect with and share your life with—that you tell yourself “no, I am just fine not having a partner.”  What is interesting about the Illusion of Satisfaction is of course we want to be satisfied and grateful for current circumstances. Sure, things could be worse, but it becomes an Illusion of Relationship when we lie to ourselves, and we fail to admit what we really want to feel amazing and what if we really want to experience. If the yearning is there, then the possibility of having it is there. To allow that [reality] into your life, you first need to admit that you want it.  Yes, you may have had a long road where you had your heart broken in some way. Maybe a relationship fell a part. Maybe a creative project or a new business did not work out the way that you wanted it too. It is OK to stop and breathe and heal.  You can do that while admitting that there is something more for you to experience and to allow into your life.” 

Best Relationships

Daniel and I have been together for 12 years. He is my favorite person. I sincerely believe that this is because both of us are committed to our own growth and respect each other as individuals.
Neither one of us wants to change the other or lives in the past of our relationship. Both of us are very different people from who we were when we first met.
Our secret is simple, and it’s the same one I bring forth to my clients. It’s being our true self and witnessing the other in their growth.
When working with clients I bring forth a variety of tools that clue my client into who they are at soul-level and they are designed to use energy. Through coaching and in shedding light on Mistaken Thinking and the Illusions of Relationship, my clients set themselves free to be their true selves and create and realign relationships where they no longer have to settle, sacrifice, or pretend to be who they are not to receive love.
Does this resonate? it might be time for a sacred inquiry.
With Love and Wisdom,
Lauren

Expectations, Fear & Anger-Oh my!

How many times have you spoken your truth, only to be on the receiving end of someone’s wrath?  Maybe you have experienced it with family?  Maybe during a break up or a fight?

Whatever it is, know this: The Illusion of Drama is at play!  This is the Illusion of Relationship™ that affects us most in the areas of emotions, feelings, and change.

Let’s dive deeper into understanding the Illusion of Drama by shedding light on expectations, one of the biggest culprits in creating unnecessary drama! See, most people go into relationships with expectations.  It is human nature to desire certain things!

One of these expectations, for instance, is that the man “should” pay for dinner. Yes, it is nice to be treated to dinner but expecting something puts a whole lot of unnecessary pressure on the date, which can lead to assumptions and drama!

Another way that expectation creeps its way into a committed relationship is when one partner feels that the other should be responsible for all of their emotional needs. This where the drama really kicks in!!

Imagine you are in an intense emotional state. You expect your partner to react to you in a certain way. Whether you are seeking comfort, affirmation, or validation—your partner does not give you what you want!  Maybe your partner even sets boundaries with you about it. Maybe you perceive this as rejection and just become angrier and angrier!

Let’s look at the other side of this dramatic interaction…

A person you care about is experiencing intense emotions and a part of you is afraid. You tried to fix the situation and found out they were not looking for solutions!  Now you feel unappreciated. At this point you might see the person as inconsolable. Whatever it is— the emotional energy is too intense for you!  You are now in survival mode, and truly believe you need to run for cover. So you yell that you need to be left alone…or you just shut down.

Does any of that sound familiar? If so, what do you do?  You could complain to your friends—-feeding into the drama! You could vilify your partner—-creating a whole other level of drama…Or you could break free of the Illusion of Drama.

If you have not yet watched the Illusion of Drama video or if you need a quick reminder, watch it here: https://youtu.be/EL1lsxJc4xw

If you are in the middle of high emotion and drama, I offer you empathy and a gentle reminder that you have a choice.  You can free yourself from the drama in a way that supports your personal growth and relationships.

Here are a couple of healing resources:

Video-“How to Stop Feeling Angry, Resentful and Hurt”- https://youtu.be/938jZkACgUA

Invitation- Connect with me one-on-one in a free consult- https://loverenegades.com/apply-renegade-session/

I will be in touch soon with more information on how you can break free from the Illusion of Drama. We will also be starting our adventure into the Illusion of Perfection soon.


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