There is a difference between doing something new with gusto and trying. When we try, we are unknowingly activating the Illusion of Perfection, one of the Illusions of Relationship™. It’s a heavy energy!
Watch the Illusion of Perfection video here: https://youtu.be/kf6ZJvdqeG8
When we try, we act with expectation. We are expecting something to happen. Expecting someone else to do something. This creates a lot of heavy pressure, creating unnecessary obstacles and burdens. It’s draining! It is a lot to carry.
You may think “I am doing everything right! I am trying so hard! Why is this not working?”
Acting from a place of trying energizes the Illusion of Perfection and is a wonderful recipe for frustration, anger, and fatigue. These energies are not attractive when creating a new relationship—one that reflects you! Nor do they magnetize new, enjoyable circumstances in your current relationship!
See, creating a new relationship or a different result in our current relationships—both where we are free to be our true selves—takes love and conscious aligned effort. It is consistently making new choices. It’s committing to show up as the person who has their ideal relationship.
What is your ideal relationship? If you are already in a great relationship, what would make it even better?
When you answer this question, I urge you to keep your answer focused on YOU and not on your partner. Here’s why…
If you watch the the Illusion of Perfection video (which you can do here: https://youtu.be/kf6ZJvdqeG8) you will see that one of the traits of this Illusion is being judgmental and critical. When we want others to be different from who they are, we first must acknowledge the parts of ourselves that are ready for an upgrade.
Does that make sense?
Sending you blessings of divine understanding, trust, and of course: Love.
Hello, Drama, My Old Friend! When Drama arrives in your life, it could mean that you in the middle of the manifestation process and in the middle of creating real lasting change! OR it can mean that you are under the influence of the Illusion of Drama, one of the Illusions of Relationship™ that pushes love away from you with a misuse of the powerful energy of Drama!
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Today I want to connect with you about the Illusion of Drama. The Illusion of Drama is the third of our Illusions of Relationship™ System that disconnects you from your heart and separates you from Love with a lot of drama, with a lot of distraction.
When we are caught into the Illusion of Drama, it is usually when things are so chaotic and busy, and when there is a lot of conflict within and relationship dynamics and within ourselves. When that is happening it is really important for you to tune in and to really be aware of how you can be the most authentic.
Are you emoting and creating drama for drama’s sake? Are you talking about your problems so that you can get attention? Or are you on the verge of a big empowerment opportunity and healing breakthrough in your life and your life is simply aligning to create that.
Drama is a part of the transformation and healing process and it is really important during this time that you go into it with a loving open heart, with a commitment to being authentic, and to step into your transformation with clarity and with a knowing that it is all working out in your favor.
Are you caught in the Illusion of Drama? Want to find out for sure? Take the free Quiz and find out which Illusion of Relationship™ is influencing you here: https://loverenegades.com/quiz/
Want to go deep and receive empowered support? Contact lauren at love renegades dot com and request a free session.
Sending you blessings!
Hope is a powerful energy, that when used in its highest and purest form, can help you heal and transform! With hope, you can create, receive, and attract higher levels of Love in your life and relationships. Amazing right?
But when “false hope” is applied—or when hope is dismissed as something meaningless and unimportant—this wonderful healing opportunity can go to waste.
By watching this video, you will connect with your heart’s wisdom and gain an understanding of genuine hope and how you can apply it to your life and relationships on an ongoing basis so that you can experience more love, joy, and freedom.
Watch it here====> https://youtu.be/oNdSP8vUNVU
Our feelings can get really hurt in our relationships and that sometimes it is really tough to move forward.
In this video I outline a perspective that my clients and I use to make sense of situations that are really tough emotionally and to be at peace when things do not go the way that we want them to go.
I highly recommend this perspective as it can really set you free and allow you to let more love into your relationships, life, and experience.
Watch it here===>https://youtu.be/ogPFf3UbV6A
Love and intimate relationships are NOT something to just “figure out.” In the last seven years of working with clients on their relationships and love lives, I have found that some of us approach love with caution—-believing that if we can “figure it out,” we will then be safe and not have to deal with rejection or the threat of heartbreak.
And then,—-in our quest to “be right” —-we either attract the OPPOSITE of what we want in our relationships OR absolutely nothing happens!
…If you are anything like me or my client, Tommie then this is a cycle that you know well! 🙂
It is illusion of the Law of Absorption, the Law of Relationship, that impacts smart people, like us, who love analyzing and figuring things out!! Chances are, you are great at giving other people at advice, but when it comes to your own life, there are times when you feel like a deer in headlights!
If any of this sounds familiar and if you are currently in a dry spell or if dating and relationships (and generally putting yourself out there) feel like harmful and hurtful minefields to cry about and avoid, PLEASE WATCH this client case study interview that I did with my friend and client, Tommie Main.
Tommie is very smart, multi-talented, and has big dreams. She has a variety of certifications and is a wonderful speaker and transformational coach. She radiates vibrant health and good vibes.
Even with all of these accomplishments, Tommie was dealing with some real resistance to love, intimidate relationships, and dating. She did not know it, but she was abiding the Law of Absorption!
In this video, Tommie will give you a play-by-play of how she Broke the Law of Absorption and:
-Healed her “love gunk” and reclaimed her power in her relationships
-Transformed into the protagonist in her own universal love story
-Tapped into her inner Love Renegade
Seriously, even if you think you are the most heart-centered and loving person in the world and believe that you already “know a lot” about love, relationships, and the “science “behind of manifesting your dream circumstances , I urge you to put your “know-it-all” filter aside, one of the steps of breaking the Law of Absorption, and watch this video!
Watch it here ========> https://youtu.be/7RGjIFQoo0U
If you have any questions or comments about this video or if there is something you would like me to make a video about, do not hesitate to reach out. I am here to serve you! ️ You can do that on my “ask lauren” page here: http://loverenegades.com/ask-lauren/
Definition of indignant: feeling or showing anger because of something unjust or unworthy : filled with or marked by indignation (Merriam-Webster Dictionary.
I remember how I felt when I “met” this word. I remember feeling seen, loved, and “at home” within myself, believing that I could not have found a more perfect way to describe how I felt day in and day out.
“This is how I have felt for so, so, SO long.”
In that moment, I felt a connection with my true self. It was the part of me that knew it was bullshit that I was treated the way I was…The part of me that saw through the hypocrisy of the adults in my life.
I was pissed. I was angry…But now: my frustration had a word. A word that came with similar themes and patterns.
It was later I would discover the dance of indignation, situations we “attract” when we chose NOT to be in coordination with toxic authority figures and the expectations that inundate us.
Every time I “followed the beat of my own drum,” I would start free-styling, leave the beaten path….and then, Indignation would find me.
Why do I trigger people? Why do “they” get so angry, jealous, controlling, and hateful toward me?
For awhile I tried to avoid the dance of indignation. Instead of being forthright, direct, and bold, I would withhold my point-of-view. I did this because I did not feel I was strong enough to withstand their reaction. And I would not just withhold, I would try to please them and gain their favor.
Can you relate?
Of course, my attempts to avoid the dance of indignation only amplified it! I continued to attract numerous situations in my relationships and social dynamics in which my challenge was to stand up for myself and set some boundaries!
For instance, in my late teens and early 20s, I attracted relationships that were abusive. Some, verbally where I was accused of cheating and called all sorts of terrible names. Others: emotionally abusive with threats of physical violence…And later, sexual violence when I was 22-years-old.
When these things happened, I told myself that these situations were my fault and that I was to blame for them happening.
Not long after that, I just stopped fighting.I avoided. I would walk on eggshells. I would disconnect from my needs and feelings. Instead, I tried to stay safe by seeking approval from doing things the “right way.”
As I healed from this and created new results in my love life, I would attract other situations of professional jealousy where other “healers” would attack me. (That still kind of blows my mind! lol)
All of these situations really sucked. They were heartbreaking. I could not believe the cruelty and misuse of power by others.
But each time, I allowed space for my inner Love Renegade—the part of me that is reliably courageous, wise, and bold–to step in and take the lead in the dance of indignation.
I consciously choose my own choreography!
I stood up to bullies.
I called people out for their behavior.
I ended toxic relationships (including relationships with family members!)
I dared to follow my own dreams!
I no longer allowed the opinions of others to stop me or define me!
I found my liberation!
What about you? What is your current dance of indignation?
As you sit with your own story, please remember that you have a choice.
- You do not have to take orders from fear!
- You are completely capable and deserving of love and people who love and respect you.
- You can take over the dance and incite your own healing rebellion!
If you have read this far, I have more for you!!!
Here is a video that details one very *odd* dance of indignation that I experienced in 2013 where I was turned into the priest for being a witch!!! WTF?!?
In under 10 minutes you will hear my story and gain more insight into how you can break the laws of relationship ™ and create your own healing rebellion!
Watch the video here =====> https://youtu.be/cF7MTYk6gb4
I will be in touch soon with more wisdom bursts for you!!
Until then, sending you blessings of LOVE LIBERATION.