The Powerful Thing about Breakups

I woke up at 4:30 AM with the powerful thing about breakups resonating throughout my being. Instead of going back to sleep I found myself out of bed and on my mediation cushion ready to start the day.

Whether it is a relationship ending or a time in your life changing, many of us have a hard time letting go and moving on. We can internalize the pain. We play out the scenarios and what-if situations over and over again.

How would you feel if you were Person A in this scenario?

Person A: My heart is broken! This relationship is ending!

Person B: Congratulations!!  It looks like new changes are unfolding in your life!

Would you find Person B to be really insensitive?

Years ago I hosted an event called “Soul-level Healing for Your Broken Heart.”  What I came to see is that the people who attended had different expectations of healing. Instead of wanting to see a higher purpose and meaning and tap into their power, the group had a genuine desire to bask in their heartbreak and be seen for the tragedy they had just endured.

My 2016 self was a little bewildered.  But I get it. I really do.  Loss of any kind comes with a grieving process that has its own timeline.  We all want to be listened to and heard.  This is a beautiful and necessary part of healing.  We need to acknowledge how we feel, but the issue comes with what happens (or what doesn’t happen) next.

Some of us go into blame and stay there.  A few of us will even see the other person as a villain. Again, there is nothing inherently wrong with this.  It’s a part of the healing process.

(If you would like some support in feeling at peace, watch my first video on Forgiveness here==> https://youtu.be/dYElv3hoBv0)

The issue comes when you fail to see your power.  

Then, there is another scenario. This is the one where we do not want to let go, because we are too afraid of what life would look like without a relationship with that person.  Even if we did not like the relationship and verbalized that we wanted something different, we are not quite ready go into the unknown.  Instead, we hold on.

Each of these responses to change separates you from your power. A huge part of healing is reclaiming your power. 

Here is where the wisdom of your inner Love Renegade comes in…

…What if the circumstance or breakup was ultimately in your highest good?
…What if the presence of the other person, villain or not, gave you the opportunity to set a boundary or uphold a new standard for yourself?
…What if the Universe is guiding you toward having the relationship and circumstances that your heart yearns for?

There is a reason why I chose relationships as my area of specialization. For years I was a magnet for people who wanted me to be someone I was not and who would get really angry and project their own wounding onto me.  For so long I felt that something was wrong with me.  I held onto these relationships. I worked on myself and turned myself inside out.  Then, one day I saw the Truth and set myself free.

In my empowered path of healing, I have chosen to align with my divinity, my soul-level gifts of Divine Wisdom and Divine Love.  I have chosen to live my design and free myself from illusion. From this, I have healed my body, enjoy a passionate and healthy relationship with my husband, and nurture loving and supportive relationships.

I also share my love by coaching amazing people in living their Divinity and freeing themselves from the Illusions of Relationship™.  It’s been a huge journey. I treasure the sacred work I get to do with my clients, whether it is for one conversation or years of sessions. I am deeply grateful.

Over the years I have found that every relationship shows us how important it is to love yourself and know your power. When you accept this as truth, you magnetize every person and experience to you that empowers you to be your highest potential.

Every relationship, regardless of how long it lasts or how it ends, comes with a gift. Will you receive this gift?

Thank you for reading.  Sending you blessings of healing, empowerment, and love.

Love Renegade Wisdom & Healing Blessings,

Lauren

P.S.  In addition to the Forgiveness video above, here is another healing resource, called “Your Solution for Feeling Hurt & Let Down,”  to help you feel better as you heal from a breakup or embrace the potentially amazing changes that are unfolding in your life: https://youtu.be/ogPFf3UbV6A

Do you forgive easily?

Do you forgive easily?

When it comes to relationships, the subject of forgiveness becomes inevitable. If you are anything like my clients and me, you have mixed feelings or strong emotions around forgiveness. If someone still has your power, as in they are living in your head rent-free, then it might be time to forgive—or at the very least explore the subject of forgiveness.  To support you with this, I created a Love Renegades Forgiveness Series.  Watch part one called “The Annoying Thing about Forgiveness” here and feel empowered about your next healing steps:

Watch here on my YouTube Channel 👉  https://youtu.be/dYElv3hoBv0

Of course, you can read the description below but the video is more fun and it contains a special healing transmission for you. 👇

Hi Beautiful. Today let’s talk about why it is so hard to forgive. Wow. You know forgiveness really used to be a concept that annoyed me.  I thought “why in the world would I forgive someone who has hurt me and caused me problems?  Why even waste time thinking of the other person? Why give them my energy?” Why, why, why??

Then one day, I realized that as much as I did not want to forgive them or think about them, they were still creepin’ their way into my heart and experience. When I realized that my thoughts and in a word way that these people had some power over me, that was when I was like , “no, no, no. It is time to gt in touch with my inner Love Renegade and let this go.”

So right now you might be upset with somebody and harbor lots of feelings of hurt. You may have been betrayed. Someone may have treated you in a mean or maybe even abusive way. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you need to be in a relationship with that person or that there needs to be a happy resolution.

No it means it is about freeing yourself so that you can allow more Love to come to you. So that you can feel better within yourself, your experience, and within your relationships. This really supports you in attracting and manifesting circumstances and relationship that reflect what you ultimately consciously desire, which is love and to be loved

Thank you for spending time with me.  

Energy Replenishing for Empaths

Being an empath is beautiful.  Being able to connect so deeply with another and be able to feel their emotions is a beautiful gift. The problem is when we are experiencing the less desirable aspects of being so sensitive such as feeling depleting or not realizing that the pain you are feeling is not even your own. In this video,  you will gain insight into how you can replenish your energy.

Watch here: https://youtu.be/Z9sxHiv4pWA

In this video, I shed light on the Illusion of Sacrifice, one of the six Illusions of Relationship™.

Feels, Emotions, Relationships and DRAMA

The Law of Drama is the Law of Relationship™ that separates us from love with dramatic experiences, over-reactions, resentments, and mistaking our [very loud] feelings for our intuition.

To break the Law of Drama we must accept that when we take steps toward transforming our circumstances—either in attracting our ideal partner, healing our broken hearts, enhancing our current relationship, or in up-leveling other parts of our lives—we are making a conscious choice to instigate change our lives.

When we choose to change, Drama knocks on our door ready to support us with the transformation we desire.

Most of us, when we experience drama, get lost in negative loops of thought and emotion. This may cause us to abandon our plans for transformation and to sabotage our progress. We may tell ourselves that we are not on the right path. We may doubt everything that we used to feel so strongly about before. Those of us who choose to break the law of drama, transcend the drama by rising above it.

See how this plays out in this “Law of Drama Case Study” with Lauren Wenzell. Lauren is a courageous, sensitive soul who writes beautiful poetry (you can check out her work on Instagram at @laurenspeacefulpoetry) and who works with children with autism. This time last year Lauren came face-to-face with the Law of Drama when her father died and just a mere few days later her longterm boyfriend broke up with her!

Watch to find out how she found her power in one of the hardest (and certainly most dramatic) times of her life here=====> https://youtu.be/bGfGcN1SSIE

Your Unique Vantage Point- Video

Your Unique Vantage Point- Video

Our feelings can get really hurt in our relationships and that sometimes it is really tough to move forward.

In this video I outline a perspective that my clients and I use to make sense of situations that are really tough emotionally and to be at peace when things do not go the way that we want them to go.

I highly recommend this perspective as it can really set you free and allow you to let more love into your relationships, life, and experience.

Watch it here===>https://youtu.be/ogPFf3UbV6A


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