Many people I connect with express to me that they want to have fulfilling relationships where they feel loved, seen, and supported by others. What I have found is that while this is a beautiful ideal, it is an ideal that can unknowingly push love away.
With the desire to be loved, seen, and supported by others, you might have created standards that came about from past negative situations where you experienced the opposite of being loved, seen, and supported.
As these events were unpleasant—and understandably very hard for you—they caused you to put walls up to protect yourself from being hurt. Then, as you began to process and heal from those experiences you developed healthy boundaries for how you wanted to be treated.
This was great then, but now you are likely stuck and not feeling fully loved, seen, and supported by others. This is because the healthy boundaries you once created have now become conditions, and conditions inevitably lead to being stuck.
Let’s explore this in a practical way…
Many of us mistake approval for unconditional love and acceptance. To see how true this is for you, look at how you handle rejection—in all areas of your life—not only your relationships!
- Do you avoid rejection by staying quiet and tolerating what no longer supports you?
- Do you avoid rejection by being so forceful and frequent about expressing your opinions that it pushes others away?
- Do you choose to dislike others because you perceive that they do not approve of you?
This mistaken thinking [of believing that unconditional love and acceptance are the same as approval and validation] keeps you stuck. Instead of going deep within yourself, authentically connecting with yourself, and making choices that go beyond your conditions by connecting authentically with others, your energy gets fixated on protecting your self-image and micro-managing other people.
What would change if you handled rejection in a new way? What would it feel like to create new boundaries instead of upholding outdated conditions?
Thank you for reading and for spending some time on your relationship with you today.
To Your Inner Wisdom,
Whatever you have been through has made you who you are today.
For those of us who have “gotten our asses kicked” by the Universe and who dared to make it to other side—that situation, the one that broke our hearts and overwhelmed us and the one that left us feeling completely defeated more than once—-yes that situation has made you who you are today.
Take a moment right now to acknowledge how far you have come. What did you learn about yourself? What wisdom did you gain from that experience? How did that experience shape you to be who are today and to have what you have?
This conversation brings us to connect with another Law of Relationship™, one of the six universal patterns of illusion that separates us from love—love in our intimate relationships, love within our life circumstances, and most importantly: the love within your own heart that allows you to tap into your personal power highest potential (aka your inner Love Renegade.)
We call this particular Law of Relationship™ the Law of Satisfaction.
(Watch this video about the law of satisfaction here====> https://youtu.be/N4jvAtfPBbY)
The role that the Law of Satisfaction plays is what causes you to settle. It does this to protect you from having to endure similar pain and agony again.
While the Law of Satisfaction may “work” to keep your life “peaceful” and maybe even impressive from the outside looking in—it can hinder you from moving into your next level of LOVE and growth.
It separates you from love by causing stagnation. We are stagnant we are stuck. We are not moving forward. This immediately puts us into conflict with Love, the most creative and growth-oriented energy there is.
To help illustrate the Law of Satisfaction and what you can do to break the Law of Satisfaction, I interviewed my client, friend, and colleague, Jennifer Murphy. Jennifer has an expansive and impressive life. She wears many hats and has “been through the ringer” in her relationships and life circumstances. Jennifer is a personal development expert and the creator of the No Limits Life Empowerment Institute.
In the summer of 2018 Jennifer hired me to assist her in breaking the laws of relationship™ and in moving into her next level of potential and Love.
Watch us talk about her experience and the ins and outs of the Law of Satisfaction and enlighten yourself to what is next for you====> https://youtu.be/N4jvAtfPBbY