Whatever you have been through has made you who you are today.
For those of us who have “gotten our asses kicked” by the Universe and who dared to make it to other side—that situation, the one that broke our hearts and overwhelmed us and the one that left us feeling completely defeated more than once—-yes that situation has made you who you are today.
Take a moment right now to acknowledge how far you have come. What did you learn about yourself? What wisdom did you gain from that experience? How did that experience shape you to be who are today and to have what you have?
This conversation brings us to connect with another Law of Relationship™, one of the six universal patterns of illusion that separates us from love—love in our intimate relationships, love within our life circumstances, and most importantly: the love within your own heart that allows you to tap into your personal power highest potential (aka your inner Love Renegade.)
We call this particular Law of Relationship™ the Law of Satisfaction.
The role that the Law of Satisfaction plays is what causes you to settle. It does this to protect you from having to endure similar pain and agony again.
While the Law of Satisfaction may “work” to keep your life “peaceful” and maybe even impressive from the outside looking in—it can hinder you from moving into your next level of LOVE and growth.
It separates you from love by causing stagnation. We are stagnant we are stuck. We are not moving forward. This immediately puts us into conflict with Love, the most creative and growth-oriented energy there is.
To help illustrate the Law of Satisfaction and what you can do to break the Law of Satisfaction, I interviewed my client, friend, and colleague, Jennifer Murphy. Jennifer has an expansive and impressive life. She wears many hats and has “been through the ringer” in her relationships and life circumstances. Jennifer is a personal development expert and the creator of the No Limits Life Empowerment Institute.
In the summer of 2018 Jennifer hired me to assist her in breaking the laws of relationship™ and in moving into her next level of potential and Love.
Watch us talk about her experience and the ins and outs of the Law of Satisfaction and enlighten yourself to what is next for you====> https://youtu.be/N4jvAtfPBbY
Unconditional love is a beautiful ideal that some people [unfortunately] choose to abuse. Watch this video for insight into the negative waves that people use the ideal of unconditional love to hurt, manipulate, and control others. The content in this video teaches you what to look out for so that you can tap into your inner love renegade, break the laws of relationship™, and release those people from your life. Watch it here====>https://youtu.be/Q-wVEb9ISKs
Are you highly compassionate and empathetic and still experience being treated badly in your relationships?
If you answered yes, you need to break the Law of Sacrifice, one of the Laws of Relationship™ that separates you from love by urging you to put yourself last and drain yourself so that others will know how much you love you and love you in return.
Find out more about how you can identify the Law of Sacrifice in your own relationships by watching this video where I interview Katie on her experience in working with me and how she broke the Law of Sacrifice.
In this video we talk about things might be considered controversial in some personal development communities. All I ask is that you acknowledge how sacrifice plays out for you in your relationships.
Love and intimate relationships are NOT something to just “figure out.” In the last seven years of working with clients on their relationships and love lives, I have found that some of us approach love with caution—-believing that if we can “figure it out,” we will then be safe and not have to deal with rejection or the threat of heartbreak.
And then,—-in our quest to “be right” —-we either attract the OPPOSITE of what we want in our relationships OR absolutely nothing happens!
…If you are anything like me or my client, Tommie then this is a cycle that you know well! 🙂
It is illusion of the Law of Absorption, the Law of Relationship, that impacts smart people, like us, who love analyzing and figuring things out!! Chances are, you are great at giving other people at advice, but when it comes to your own life, there are times when you feel like a deer in headlights!
If any of this sounds familiar and if you are currently in a dry spell or if dating and relationships (and generally putting yourself out there) feel like harmful and hurtful minefields to cry about and avoid, PLEASE WATCH this client case study interview that I did with my friend and client, Tommie Main.
Tommie is very smart, multi-talented, and has big dreams. She has a variety of certifications and is a wonderful speaker and transformational coach. She radiates vibrant health and good vibes.
Even with all of these accomplishments, Tommie was dealing with some real resistance to love, intimidate relationships, and dating. She did not know it, but she was abiding the Law of Absorption!
In this video, Tommie will give you a play-by-play of how she Broke the Law of Absorption and:
-Healed her “love gunk” and reclaimed her power in her relationships
-Transformed into the protagonist in her own universal love story
-Tapped into her inner Love Renegade
Seriously, even if you think you are the most heart-centered and loving person in the world and believe that you already “know a lot” about love, relationships, and the “science “behind of manifesting your dream circumstances , I urge you to put your “know-it-all” filter aside, one of the steps of breaking the Law of Absorption, and watch this video!
If you have any questions or comments about this video or if there is something you would like me to make a video about, do not hesitate to reach out. I am here to serve you! ️ You can do that on my “ask lauren” page here:http://loverenegades.com/ask-lauren/
Definition of indignant: feeling or showing anger because of something unjust or unworthy : filled with or marked by indignation (Merriam-Webster Dictionary.
I remember how I felt when I “met” this word. I remember feeling seen, loved, and “at home” within myself, believing that I could not have found a more perfect way to describe how I felt day in and day out.
“This is how I have felt for so, so, SO long.”
In that moment, I felt a connection with my true self. It was the part of me that knew it was bullshit that I was treated the way I was…The part of me that saw through the hypocrisy of the adults in my life.
I was pissed. I was angry…But now: my frustration had a word. A word that came with similar themes and patterns.
It was later I would discover the dance of indignation, situations we “attract” when we chose NOT to be in coordination with toxic authority figures and the expectations that inundate us.
Every time I “followed the beat of my own drum,” I would start free-styling, leave the beaten path….and then, Indignation would find me.
Why do I trigger people? Why do “they” get so angry, jealous, controlling, and hateful toward me?
For awhile I tried to avoid the dance of indignation. Instead of being forthright, direct, and bold, I would withhold my point-of-view. I did this because I did not feel I was strong enough to withstand their reaction. And I would not just withhold, I would try to please them and gain their favor.
Can you relate?
Of course, my attempts to avoid the dance of indignation only amplified it! I continued to attract numerous situations in my relationships and social dynamics in which my challenge was to stand up for myself and set some boundaries!
For instance, in my late teens and early 20s, I attracted relationships that were abusive. Some, verbally where I was accused of cheating and called all sorts of terrible names. Others: emotionally abusive with threats of physical violence…And later, sexual violence when I was 22-years-old.
When these things happened, I told myself that these situations were my fault and that I was to blame for them happening.
Not long after that, I just stopped fighting.I avoided. I would walk on eggshells. I would disconnect from my needs and feelings. Instead, I tried to stay safe by seeking approval from doing things the “right way.”
As I healed from this and created new results in my love life, I would attract other situations of professional jealousy where other “healers” would attack me. (That still kind of blows my mind! lol)
All of these situations really sucked. They were heartbreaking. I could not believe the cruelty and misuse of power by others.
But each time, I allowed space for my inner Love Renegade—the part of me that is reliably courageous, wise, and bold–to step in and take the lead in the dance of indignation.
I consciously choose my own choreography!
I stood up to bullies.
I called people out for their behavior.
I ended toxic relationships (including relationships with family members!)
I dared to follow my own dreams!
I no longer allowed the opinions of others to stop me or define me!
I found my liberation!
What about you? What is your current dance of indignation?
As you sit with your own story, please remember that you have a choice.
You do not have to take orders from fear!
You are completely capable and deserving of love and people who love and respect you.
You can take over the dance and incite your own healing rebellion!
If you have read this far, I have more for you!!!
Here is a video that details one very *odd* dance of indignation that I experienced in 2013 where I was turned into the priest for being a witch!!! WTF?!?
In under 10 minutes you will hear my story and gain more insight into how you can break the laws of relationship ™ and create your own healing rebellion!
It was during the summer of 2009 when I wrote my first [and so far only] missed connection. I was living in my hometown, El Paso, TX, working a job I barely tolerated, and grappling with the predicament of being in love with two men at the same time.
To cope with these messy emotions and very complicated feelings I posted a missed connection on Craigslist. It was short, cryptic, and “punny.” I got responses from others–not the person for whom it was intended—wishing me well and relating to me their own experiences of pain, heartbreak, and lost love.
Fast forward 10 years—both men are currently in my life! One of them, my handsome husband, Daniel, I married in 2012. The other, remains a friend of both of ours! I look back on the relationship that inspired that missed connection post and I see it with eyes of love, gratitude, and even awe.
See, when it ended, my logical mind told me that I was a free spirit going through an existential crisis who wanted to join the Peace Corps and that my former partner was taking a completely different—let’s say safer and more level-headed approach—by buying a house and settling down. The practical thing to do, we both felt, was to go our separate ways.
Now, over a decade later, I see the breakup as a powerful catalyst.
I would not have been able to truly BE my highest potential if I had stayed in that relationship.
Yes, romantic love, sexual chemistry, friendship were all there with the first relationship. No question about it! But there were was a huge missing piece in our relationship that I could not even see at the time!
The missing piece pointed to the lack of connection I had with myself. The breakup, as painful as it was, *forced me to shed light on those forgotten parts of myself which eventually, through plenty of twists and turns and close calls, led to a domino effect of awesome-ness!
There is more to this story that I would love to share with you. For now I have decided to share a bit more of it in an interview I did for the Women Entrepreneurs RadioSecrets of Success series called “Breaking the Laws of [Relationship] for Success, the Love Renegade’s Way with Lauren Kay Wyatt.”
You see, in some form or another, every relationship we have is a reflection of ourselves. This is especially highlighted when it comes to our intimate relationships!
Like it or not, these important relationships DO impact our self-expression and the results and fulfillment we have in our professional lives—especially if that professional life includes being an entrepreneur!
With my “enlightened” perspective I see that if had stayed in that relationship, I would not have had the courage to fully embrace my psychic gifts and have the *nerve to start a business grounded in the “woo-woo arts.”
Furthermore, had I not have endured that gut-wrenching breakup, I would not have had the healing that allowed me to reconnect with my inner wisdom, unconditional love, and soul purpose.
This powerful reconnection, fueled by unapologetic self-love, allowed me to experience *radical changes* that would forever impact the way I approached my romantic relationships, friendships, family relationships, and even partnerships with clients and other leaders in my field.
These changes led to healing which ultimately led me to discover the Laws of Relationship™, the six universal patterns of illusion, that separate us from love and cause disruption, chaos, and frustration in our romantic lives, relationships, and professional endeavors.
To further illuminate the often overlooked phenomenon (a missed connection in of its own lol) of how your love life and relationships DO affect your professional life and the success of your business, I want to share an interview I did with Deb Bailey of Women Entrepreneurs Radio.
In this interview Deb and I talk about success and love in business with humor, candor, and through the looking glass of the Laws of Relationship (which, FYI, at the time of recording back in January 2019, I called the Laws of Love!)
Whether you are an entrepreneur, a team leader, and/or someone who prioritizes healing and love in all of its forms, this interview will support you in bridging the gap of a missed connection within yourself so that you can enjoy more of what you desire in your love life, your relationships, and professionally.
Each time I connect with a client I am amazed by the wisdom that comes through. I am always left feeling energized and completely in awe.
Each person I work with is so precious and each session is sacred. Being coached, coaching, and watching someone be coached can be a healing experience.
We are all reflections of each other.
Even though we are not all exactly the same (and how boring would it be if we were lol) and some of us may loudly mirror our differences back to each other, all of us endure the same universal patterns and are bound to the same universal laws.
In this Love Liberation Session you will meet Shannon! Shannon has beautiful “pixie-energy” and after healing herself from a chronic illness, toxic relationships, and stepping into a completely new career as a medical intuitive, Shannon is at a choice point.
Will she risk getting hurt and opening her heart to love and romance?
Will she be courageous and dare to pursue her dream relationship
Or will she continue with “business as usual?”
Shannon’s session will be especially insightful for you if any of the following apply:
You are feeling guided to take a leap of faith but there is a part of you hanging on (to the past or how things “should” be)
You feel obligated to keep certain people in your life
You have already done a lot of inner healing work
You are curious about how I do what I do
It is my intention that the content in Shannon’s session supports you in saying yes to amazing love and taking a stand for love!
In many spiritual and personal development circles, there is a lot of talk about compassion and love, but there is a culture of avoidance when it comes to confrontation.
As a Love Renegade I believe that confrontation is sacred. It is an opportunity to stand in your truth and confront the parts of yourself, your life, and your relationships that are in conflict with your inner compass of integrity.
To heal we must be willing to engage in confrontation. The confrontation does not have to be you verses someone else. In fact, it is most powerful when the confrontation is between you and you. This allows you to build a foundation of self-trust that allows you to make wise choices on your own behalf—which then allows you to receive and attract love in all of its forms.
To me, these are the most empowered aspects of self-love and self-compassion. Listen to my first beginnings of practicing self-compassion and self-love through confronting my own limiting beliefs in this interview on the “Compassionately You” podcast.