You and someone you care about have not spoken in months. You want so badly to reconnect and yet…you don’t. You have so much to share but the timing is not quite right.
This is not an issue of perfection. This is what I call a “choice of permission.” All too often we do not give ourselves permission to do what we want to do. Instead, we continue to do what we have been doing or we choose to do what we are told to do.
As the leader of our movement, Love Renegades, I gave myself permission to temporarily remove myself from “business as usual.” In that choice I stood with my heart’s truth, replenished with the Divine, and focused on my sacred relationships.
This, sweet ones, is the reason I have been absent for the last few months.
Instead of keeping up appearances with social media and marketing and doing what I was “supposed to do,” I acknowledged my heart’s longing for something else. Something new, different, and unknown—that at the time, had not yet revealed itself to me.
In an effort to understand my heart’s message, I chose Love where I dove deeply into service mode with clients and focused on the three relationships I care about the most:
My relationship with the Divine
My relationship with my Self
My relationship with husband, Daniel
This decision of choosing Love and these sacred relationships led to a series of events that would take me on a spiritual pilgrimage throughout India in early 2020 and would ultimately lead me to relocating to Hawaii with my husband, Daniel—and in the middle of a pandemic.
In this time of global calamity, I am acutely aware of how powerful our choices are. I see the polarity of love and fear clearly. I am choosing Love.
My loving intention to reach out to you today was to reconnect with you—to remind you of your heart’s wisdom and the power that comes from making a choice.
And I am doing something I have not done in years! Over the next two weeks I have chosen to open up my calendar to support you in reconnecting with your heart and choosing Love.
The Law of Drama is the Law of Relationship™ that separates us from love with dramatic experiences, over-reactions, resentments, and mistaking our [very loud] feelings for our intuition.
To break the Law of Drama we must accept that when we take steps toward transforming our circumstances—either in attracting our ideal partner, healing our broken hearts, enhancing our current relationship, or in up-leveling other parts of our lives—we are making a conscious choice to instigate change our lives.
When we choose to change, Drama knocks on our door ready to support us with the transformation we desire.
Most of us, when we experience drama, get lost in negative loops of thought and emotion. This may cause us to abandon our plans for transformation and to sabotage our progress. We may tell ourselves that we are not on the right path. We may doubt everything that we used to feel so strongly about before. Those of us who choose to break the law of drama, transcend the drama by rising above it.
See how this plays out in this “Law of Drama Case Study” with Lauren Wenzell. Lauren is a courageous, sensitive soul who writes beautiful poetry (you can check out her work on Instagram at @laurenspeacefulpoetry) and who works with children with autism. This time last year Lauren came face-to-face with the Law of Drama when her father died and just a mere few days later her longterm boyfriend broke up with her!
Watch to find out how she found her power in one of the hardest (and certainly most dramatic) times of her life here=====> https://youtu.be/bGfGcN1SSIE
Whatever you have been through has made you who you are today.
For those of us who have “gotten our asses kicked” by the Universe and who dared to make it to other side—that situation, the one that broke our hearts and overwhelmed us and the one that left us feeling completely defeated more than once—-yes that situation has made you who you are today.
Take a moment right now to acknowledge how far you have come. What did you learn about yourself? What wisdom did you gain from that experience? How did that experience shape you to be who are today and to have what you have?
This conversation brings us to connect with another Law of Relationship™, one of the six universal patterns of illusion that separates us from love—love in our intimate relationships, love within our life circumstances, and most importantly: the love within your own heart that allows you to tap into your personal power highest potential (aka your inner Love Renegade.)
We call this particular Law of Relationship™ the Law of Satisfaction.
The role that the Law of Satisfaction plays is what causes you to settle. It does this to protect you from having to endure similar pain and agony again.
While the Law of Satisfaction may “work” to keep your life “peaceful” and maybe even impressive from the outside looking in—it can hinder you from moving into your next level of LOVE and growth.
It separates you from love by causing stagnation. We are stagnant we are stuck. We are not moving forward. This immediately puts us into conflict with Love, the most creative and growth-oriented energy there is.
To help illustrate the Law of Satisfaction and what you can do to break the Law of Satisfaction, I interviewed my client, friend, and colleague, Jennifer Murphy. Jennifer has an expansive and impressive life. She wears many hats and has “been through the ringer” in her relationships and life circumstances. Jennifer is a personal development expert and the creator of the No Limits Life Empowerment Institute.
In the summer of 2018 Jennifer hired me to assist her in breaking the laws of relationship™ and in moving into her next level of potential and Love.
Watch us talk about her experience and the ins and outs of the Law of Satisfaction and enlighten yourself to what is next for you====> https://youtu.be/N4jvAtfPBbY
Unconditional love is a beautiful ideal that some people [unfortunately] choose to abuse. Watch this video for insight into the negative waves that people use the ideal of unconditional love to hurt, manipulate, and control others. The content in this video teaches you what to look out for so that you can tap into your inner love renegade, break the laws of relationship™, and release those people from your life. Watch it here====>https://youtu.be/Q-wVEb9ISKs
Are you highly compassionate and empathetic and still experience being treated badly in your relationships?
If you answered yes, you need to break the Law of Sacrifice, one of the Laws of Relationship™ that separates you from love by urging you to put yourself last and drain yourself so that others will know how much you love you and love you in return.
Find out more about how you can identify the Law of Sacrifice in your own relationships by watching this video where I interview Katie on her experience in working with me and how she broke the Law of Sacrifice.
In this video we talk about things might be considered controversial in some personal development communities. All I ask is that you acknowledge how sacrifice plays out for you in your relationships.
Love and intimate relationships are NOT something to just “figure out.” In the last seven years of working with clients on their relationships and love lives, I have found that some of us approach love with caution—-believing that if we can “figure it out,” we will then be safe and not have to deal with rejection or the threat of heartbreak.
And then,—-in our quest to “be right” —-we either attract the OPPOSITE of what we want in our relationships OR absolutely nothing happens!
…If you are anything like me or my client, Tommie then this is a cycle that you know well! 🙂
It is illusion of the Law of Absorption, the Law of Relationship, that impacts smart people, like us, who love analyzing and figuring things out!! Chances are, you are great at giving other people at advice, but when it comes to your own life, there are times when you feel like a deer in headlights!
If any of this sounds familiar and if you are currently in a dry spell or if dating and relationships (and generally putting yourself out there) feel like harmful and hurtful minefields to cry about and avoid, PLEASE WATCH this client case study interview that I did with my friend and client, Tommie Main.
Tommie is very smart, multi-talented, and has big dreams. She has a variety of certifications and is a wonderful speaker and transformational coach. She radiates vibrant health and good vibes.
Even with all of these accomplishments, Tommie was dealing with some real resistance to love, intimidate relationships, and dating. She did not know it, but she was abiding the Law of Absorption!
In this video, Tommie will give you a play-by-play of how she Broke the Law of Absorption and:
-Healed her “love gunk” and reclaimed her power in her relationships
-Transformed into the protagonist in her own universal love story
-Tapped into her inner Love Renegade
Seriously, even if you think you are the most heart-centered and loving person in the world and believe that you already “know a lot” about love, relationships, and the “science “behind of manifesting your dream circumstances , I urge you to put your “know-it-all” filter aside, one of the steps of breaking the Law of Absorption, and watch this video!
If you have any questions or comments about this video or if there is something you would like me to make a video about, do not hesitate to reach out. I am here to serve you! ️ You can do that on my “ask lauren” page here:http://loverenegades.com/ask-lauren/
Definition of indignant: feeling or showing anger because of something unjust or unworthy : filled with or marked by indignation (Merriam-Webster Dictionary.
I remember how I felt when I “met” this word. I remember feeling seen, loved, and “at home” within myself, believing that I could not have found a more perfect way to describe how I felt day in and day out.
“This is how I have felt for so, so, SO long.”
In that moment, I felt a connection with my true self. It was the part of me that knew it was bullshit that I was treated the way I was…The part of me that saw through the hypocrisy of the adults in my life.
I was pissed. I was angry…But now: my frustration had a word. A word that came with similar themes and patterns.
It was later I would discover the dance of indignation, situations we “attract” when we chose NOT to be in coordination with toxic authority figures and the expectations that inundate us.
Every time I “followed the beat of my own drum,” I would start free-styling, leave the beaten path….and then, Indignation would find me.
Why do I trigger people? Why do “they” get so angry, jealous, controlling, and hateful toward me?
For awhile I tried to avoid the dance of indignation. Instead of being forthright, direct, and bold, I would withhold my point-of-view. I did this because I did not feel I was strong enough to withstand their reaction. And I would not just withhold, I would try to please them and gain their favor.
Can you relate?
Of course, my attempts to avoid the dance of indignation only amplified it! I continued to attract numerous situations in my relationships and social dynamics in which my challenge was to stand up for myself and set some boundaries!
For instance, in my late teens and early 20s, I attracted relationships that were abusive. Some, verbally where I was accused of cheating and called all sorts of terrible names. Others: emotionally abusive with threats of physical violence…And later, sexual violence when I was 22-years-old.
When these things happened, I told myself that these situations were my fault and that I was to blame for them happening.
Not long after that, I just stopped fighting.I avoided. I would walk on eggshells. I would disconnect from my needs and feelings. Instead, I tried to stay safe by seeking approval from doing things the “right way.”
As I healed from this and created new results in my love life, I would attract other situations of professional jealousy where other “healers” would attack me. (That still kind of blows my mind! lol)
All of these situations really sucked. They were heartbreaking. I could not believe the cruelty and misuse of power by others.
But each time, I allowed space for my inner Love Renegade—the part of me that is reliably courageous, wise, and bold–to step in and take the lead in the dance of indignation.
I consciously choose my own choreography!
I stood up to bullies.
I called people out for their behavior.
I ended toxic relationships (including relationships with family members!)
I dared to follow my own dreams!
I no longer allowed the opinions of others to stop me or define me!
I found my liberation!
What about you? What is your current dance of indignation?
As you sit with your own story, please remember that you have a choice.
You do not have to take orders from fear!
You are completely capable and deserving of love and people who love and respect you.
You can take over the dance and incite your own healing rebellion!
If you have read this far, I have more for you!!!
Here is a video that details one very *odd* dance of indignation that I experienced in 2013 where I was turned into the priest for being a witch!!! WTF?!?
In under 10 minutes you will hear my story and gain more insight into how you can break the laws of relationship ™ and create your own healing rebellion!