Be True to You: Especially on Valentine’s Day

If there is any day to be completely truthful with yourself, it is today: Valentine’s Day. To be honest, I am not fond of holidays. I do not enjoy the social obligation of participating in them. I do not like the “collective vibe” of many holidays or how they underscore feelings of loneliness and disconnection.

That being said, I do LOVE reaching out to you and letting you know that you matter. While there is no one else in the world quite like you, the feelings you feel and the issues that leave you feeling disillusioned are universal. When you are honest with yourself about your feelings and desires and when you take empowered actions, you make way for more of what you desire.

Why is this true? Because you cannot control other people but you are in charge of how you choose to respond (not necessarily react) to the different obstacles and challenges in your life and within your romantic relationships.

(Stay tuned for a post on the “Law of Control” and what it is to break this law of love™ one of the so-called rules of engagement that get in the way of you having fulfilling experiences in your romantic life, personal, and professional life.)

What can you do to be more true to you on this very special day?

To answer my own question…

This Valentine’s Day, I am retiring the title, “Love Psychic.”  When I chose this title in 2012, it was from a place of wanting to give an honest portrayal of the service I offered. It was to embrace traits about myself that I had denied for years. It a statement of love and appreciation for myself and it was to model truth for others.

Over the years, things have grown and evolved, as they often will with time. I have found that “psychic,” although a part of what I bring to clients is no longer the most accurate.

At Love Renegades, I help my clients find and attract love within the framework of dating and within their romantic partnerships and relationships. I also help them create results that they love in other aspects of their professional and personal lives.

I do this by empowering them to rebel against social, familial, and cultural constructs that no longer serve them.  By reconnecting them with their inner wisdom, I assist them in identifying, addressing, and rewriting these so-called “rules” of engagement in relationships, or what we at Love Renegades call Breaking the Laws of Love™.

I have witnessed genuine healing occur in the work I do with clients. I have seen it reflected in their relationships, their love life, and in their professional success.

Do you desire to experience more love in your romantic relationships personal achievements? More healing in your heart center and self-esteem?

If you answered yes, then give yourself the gift of a free Heart Connection Session. These sessions are free and delivered over the phone or on Zoom (video conferencing.) In this session, you will receive coaching and insight on exactly what is blocking you from having the experiences you want and more importantly: what you can do about it in clear and practical terms.

These sessions are application-only, not because I am a “snobby snob,” but because sincerely want to make sure that I am the best person to serve you and that you are ready for what I can offer you.

Apply here: https://loverenegades.com/apply-renegade-session/

What other ways can you be true to you today and everyday? Let us know with your comment. 

Thank you for reading and Happy forking Valentine’s Day. ❤️

 

Go Ahead. Be a “Jerk”

I am not breaking up with you. I am simply letting you know that what we have is dead. 

These were the words I spoke to Daniel (just months before I asked him to marry me) in 2011. 

[Listen to me read this blog post here. (Just so that you know it is just a little bit different from what I have written.)] 

Moments before that, I had given him an  honest “play-by-play” account of how I had almost physically cheated and definitely emotionally cheated on him—- with someone of whom I felt was more “enlightened” and “conscious” than he was.

Full disclosure—-when I think back to this moment, I cringe just a little bit. With this sweet embarrassment, I feel an interesting mix of gratitude, and humor, sprinkled with bits of admiration and toped with just a bit of horror. I’ll even roll my eyes just a little bit at myself. 

Yes, I was self-absorbed. 

Yes, I did not sugarcoat anything.

Yes, maybe felt just a little bit of shame for my actions, but I was at a turning point.

I had just awakened to the power of my inner Love Renegade. I felt my love renegade brewing inside of my heart. She was immature and rough-around-the-edges, but she was beautifully raw, passionate, vulnerable, and unapologetic. 

When I reflect on this both very inspiring and very awkward and almost cringe-worthy moment, I admire how bold, courageous, and unattached I was. I took a huge risk. I was willing to let go of a relationship where I felt like my true nature was not allowed. I was willing to burn it all down in the name of fierce unapologetic truth.

Have you gone through a moment like this?

Have you ever been so authentic and unrehearsed?

Have you had the courage to tell someone your flaws and to accept whatever reaction they had to it?

On the other side…

…Are you holding back on sharing yourself?

…Are you choosing to edit yourself and repress your desires?

The path of the Love Renegade is not an easy one.  It is unconventional. Most people will be triggered by someone who “gets away” with breaking social paradigms.

And it makes sense.

When we go through years of living our life one way and then one day we just decide to change, it is inevitable that our environment—which includes our relationships—is going to react.

That’s universal law. 🙂 

The choice to tap into your Love Renegade is rooted in love. It’s a path that gives you permission to disconnect from the “noise”—all of the “have-tos,” the social obligations, the “shoulds, etc” and instead, tune into the voice of your inner wisdom while living life according to your own principles and boundaries. 

Are you brave enough to have the life and relationship that you dream about?

Many judge this the Love Renegade path as being selfish and rude. As love renegades, we compassionately welcome and embrace the difference of opinion. Healing is the most high vibe form of rebellion. Every rebel needs an opposition. It is this polarity of reaction to your choice to heal that shows fuels your inner love revolution and empowers you to break the laws of love™. 

The “laws of love” are NOT standards to follow, adhere, and aspire towards. They are the opposition, the very social paradigms, needless “rules,” and fear-based structures that are designed by the collective to put you in your place and to keep you from thinking freely and acting honesty. These laws of love ensure that your relationships are stifling and that you do not live out your purpose.

As Love Renegades, we make it a our soul’s journey in pursuit of the relationships that most reflect our highest potential back to us to “break the laws of love™.” 

This path is not always pretty. Sometimes, it can be downright messy. This is because the process of healing does not unfold occur in a perfect straight line. There are lots of magical squiggles and plot twists. There is a bit of drama and speaking archetypically, there are hero moments of pure love and self-actualization too.

In 2011, I broke the laws of love™ when I spoke my very revealing and messy (and almost-shameful) truth to Daniel. I did not let my “bad behavior” keep me hostage. I realized I had broken agreements in our relationship and I was gaining clarity on why I chose to do to make those choices. With the light that I found, I knew things would not be the same ever again. 

Daniel broke the laws of love™ when he chose to meet me on my journey by healing and growing with me.  Daniel and I have been together 10 years. I often say that our relationship is one of my greatest achievements. Each day I am moved by the unconditional love we share and the absolute honesty that we practice.

(In case you might be thinking that Daniel must have been weak and that his choice not to leave the relationship was a decision that a doormat would make, nothing could be further from the truth. Daniel is and has always been one of the most powerful, secure, and self-confident people that I know. Even though he did not like the information I brought forth to him, he was trusted that this challenge was more than just a blow to the ego and that he had manifested an opportunity for healing, growth, and empowerment. He chose to step into this opportunity, with his love renegade in tow.) 

Are you interested in breaking the laws of love™? Do you want to meet your inner love renegade?  Apply for a Heart Connection Session, a judgement-free Love Renegade coaching session, where you will:

  • Dive deep into the desire of your heart
  • Receive truthful insight
  • Find out what’s next

Apply here: https://loverenegades.com/apply-renegade-session/

 

Solution to STOP Feeling Let Down & Drained in Relationships

Relationships are not always easy. Whenever two or more people get together, there can be conflicts, arguments, and even awkward and uncomfortable moments. Sometimes this discomfort can be linked to things not really turning out as planned.

If you are anything like me, then you have gone through periods of disappointment in your relationships.  This can be anything from  can be anything from feeling totally

let down by your partner, a parent, and close friend to feeling sad and disappointed that a relationship with someone you are once really close with is not what it used to be.

If you are going through this right now, I urge you to feel these feelings. If in your process of coming to terms with your disappointment, you feel ready to put your energy elsewhere, then watch this video to get a perspective that could really heal your heart and empower you in your relationships. 

Click here to watch this video on the Love Renegades YouTube Channel. 

That’s it, I QUIT.

I grew up in a home where quitting was not an option. It was something so strongly engrained in me that I was usually afraid to start anything. What if I didn’t like it?  Would I have to keep going to adhere to the family image of not being a quitter?  And what if it did not work out?  Would I just keep doing the very thing over and over again that showed me that I was not enough, while hoping for another outcome?

In my 36 years of being alive, I have come to embrace that quitting is sometimes one of the best things we can do for ourselves. That’s why for the new year, I want to encourage you to look at all of the things in the 2019 that you can quit.

Wait, what?  OK, let me back up a bit.

Being a Love Renegade is a commitment to being unapologetically you as you create and grow a romantic relationship (and circumstances that you love) that reflect your heart’s wisdom and desire.

To be a Love Renegade and allow your best relationship—-which by the way does not have to look like mine and adhere to a heteronormative monogamous or more traditional model—-you must break the “laws of love.”  The “laws of love” point to patterns or relationships that must be broken/QUIT—-for you to experience what you want in your relationships and within your life.

As my husband Daniel says, “It’s a New Year’s Resolution, it’s a New Year’s REVOLUTION!”

What will you quit in 2019?  How will you #revoltforlove?  Will you…

…Break the Law of Control and quit trying to make everyone conform to YOUR standards and limitations?

…Break the Law of Sacrifice and quit relationships that drain your energy and catapult you into a cycle of martyrdom?

…Break the Law of Drama and quit making such a scene when what you really should be doing is creating an authentic connection with your heart and others?

…Break the Law of Perfection and quit editing yourself and trying to be just like everyone else?

…Break the Law of Absorption and quit giving into your own rigid way of doing things?

…Break the Law of Satisfaction and quit trying to impress everyone when you feel empty inside?

In 2019, it is my commitment to you to reach out when I have something to say and to let you know unapologetically when you are getting in your own way and blocking yourself from receiving incredible love.

I am accepting clients for my six month Love Renegades Private Coaching Program. If you would like to explore the possibility of hiring me in 2019, we can do this in the context of a Heart Connection Session. You can apply for one of these sacred sessions here.

In the meantime, wishing you a year of love, joy, prosperity, and truth.

Finding Closure in Odd Places

It was the summer of 2013, my husband, Daniel and I were living in a small town in Pennsylvania.. I could not help but notice that so many people voiced that they wanted to work with me but were not able to because of their religious beliefs. Instead of getting frustrated or going into a pattern of wanting to change someone else’s beliefs, I became curious. What was it about me that was attracting this particular objection to deep soulful work?  What was my issue with religion?

I knew I had some resolved “stuff” with my Catholic upbringing but I thought I had made peace with it. The responses I was getting from other people showed me a wonderful opportunity for healing. It was then that I made a decision to go on a Catholic retreat with the church I grew up in. I was not going because I was “coming back” to the religion I grew up with. I was not going because I was craving that particular kind of structure for spirituality. I was not sure why I was going but I felt compelled to go.

What I discovered there brought me so much healing—and in a completely different way from what was intended. I created closure.  You can find out more by clicking here to watch this video on the Love Renegades YouTube Channel.

 

The FallOut of Setting Boundaries

Although it might sound counter-intuitive, one of the biggest ways we can experience incredible love and appreciation in our relationships is to set and uphold healthy boundaries. If you are like me or many of my clients, setting boundaries does not come naturally. In fact, like many of us, you may have grown up in an environment where it was not safe to have boundaries. This may have made it hard for you to develop your own sense of self-confidence, self-esteem, self-trust, and self-worth.  In the video below, which you can find on our Love Renegades YouTube channel, I speak vulnerably and candidly about the process of setting boundaries. Watch it here.


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