That’s it, I QUIT.

I grew up in a home where quitting was not an option. It was something so strongly engrained in me that I was usually afraid to start anything. What if I didn’t like it?  Would I have to keep going to adhere to the family image of not being a quitter?  And what if it did not work out?  Would I just keep doing the very thing over and over again that showed me that I was not enough, while hoping for another outcome?

In my 36 years of being alive, I have come to embrace that quitting is sometimes one of the best things we can do for ourselves. That’s why for the new year, I want to encourage you to look at all of the things in the 2019 that you can quit.

Wait, what?  OK, let me back up a bit.

Being a Love Renegade is a commitment to being unapologetically you as you create and grow a romantic relationship (and circumstances that you love) that reflect your heart’s wisdom and desire.

To be a Love Renegade and allow your best relationship—-which by the way does not have to look like mine and adhere to a heteronormative monogamous or more traditional model—-you must break the “laws of love.”  The “laws of love” point to patterns or relationships that must be broken/QUIT—-for you to experience what you want in your relationships and within your life.

As my husband Daniel says, “It’s a New Year’s Resolution, it’s a New Year’s REVOLUTION!”

What will you quit in 2019?  How will you #revoltforlove?  Will you…

…Break the Law of Control and quit trying to make everyone conform to YOUR standards and limitations?

…Break the Law of Sacrifice and quit relationships that drain your energy and catapult you into a cycle of martyrdom?

…Break the Law of Drama and quit making such a scene when what you really should be doing is creating an authentic connection with your heart and others?

…Break the Law of Perfection and quit editing yourself and trying to be just like everyone else?

…Break the Law of Absorption and quit giving into your own rigid way of doing things?

…Break the Law of Satisfaction and quit trying to impress everyone when you feel empty inside?

In 2019, it is my commitment to you to reach out when I have something to say and to let you know unapologetically when you are getting in your own way and blocking yourself from receiving incredible love.

I am accepting clients for my six month Love Renegades Private Coaching Program. If you would like to explore the possibility of hiring me in 2019, we can do this in the context of a Heart Connection Session. You can apply for one of these sacred sessions here.

In the meantime, wishing you a year of love, joy, prosperity, and truth.

Finding Closure in Odd Places

It was the summer of 2013, my husband, Daniel and I were living in a small town in Pennsylvania.. I could not help but notice that so many people voiced that they wanted to work with me but were not able to because of their religious beliefs. Instead of getting frustrated or going into a pattern of wanting to change someone else’s beliefs, I became curious. What was it about me that was attracting this particular objection to deep soulful work?  What was my issue with religion?

I knew I had some resolved “stuff” with my Catholic upbringing but I thought I had made peace with it. The responses I was getting from other people showed me a wonderful opportunity for healing. It was then that I made a decision to go on a Catholic retreat with the church I grew up in. I was not going because I was “coming back” to the religion I grew up with. I was not going because I was craving that particular kind of structure for spirituality. I was not sure why I was going but I felt compelled to go.

What I discovered there brought me so much healing—and in a completely different way from what was intended. I created closure.  You can find out more by clicking here to watch this video on the Love Renegades YouTube Channel.

 

The FallOut of Setting Boundaries

Although it might sound counter-intuitive, one of the biggest ways we can experience incredible love and appreciation in our relationships is to set and uphold healthy boundaries. If you are like me or many of my clients, setting boundaries does not come naturally. In fact, like many of us, you may have grown up in an environment where it was not safe to have boundaries. This may have made it hard for you to develop your own sense of self-confidence, self-esteem, self-trust, and self-worth.  In the video below, which you can find on our Love Renegades YouTube channel, I speak vulnerably and candidly about the process of setting boundaries. Watch it here.

It’s OK to be different.

It’s OK to be different.

“When the Rules of Love Fail you, don’t be afraid to break the laws of love.”

To elaborate, I made a short video for you. Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/WqZFrp1Fg8M

If you have any feedback or questions, please reach out. ❤️

I truly love hearing from you.

From My Heart to Yours,
Lauren